Recently had a conversation with someone I met that shook me. I always run into this issue. Post university/college, post that one huge breakup… dating life is really different. I really have learned to enjoy my solitude, define myself on my own and be proud of my accomplishments. A rare situation but may be common for some – happened to me. I met someone in real life. Offline and at an event. We talked and even hung out minus any internet-ness. The convo that happened is right after we connected on Facebook. He said that it ‘threw him off’ seeing what my online presence revealed. Am I really a cewebrity? Am I just another industry chick? Am i really too LA to be real?
Of course not. For those of you who know me and read this blog know none of us here is about that.
“God makes no mistakes, Im on the right track baby i was born this way”
Naturally, I down played my clout and really didn’t want my accomplishments to ruin yet another situation. The problem with meeting a lot of sub par, less driven and ordinary people is that you feel bad for who you are. This song really has to be my anthem. The door really swings both ways – Sometimes they fall for who are you online and the 100 stories 1 photo can tell. Sometimes they love how you are in person and don’t want everything else that comes with it. Lucky for me, the story is yet to unfold. I must remind myself to be myself and be okay with that. No matter how much you want someone else to understand, accept, love you – you have to do that first. Defend your being.
“There’s nothing wrong with who you are”
I am a huge advocate of loving someone the way they are. You date a guy who loves to go out, don’t expect him to change. You date a guy who loves cats, don’t expect him to change. I don’t expect him to change because I hope for the same. Take it all and enjoy every moment of it, contradictions and all. It is not easy. No matter how great the hypothetic ‘him’ seems, you gotta know you first.