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The Avenger
Can’t wait to attend the press screening of the Avengers tomorrow đ
MARVELâS THE AVENGERS cast members Robert Downey Jr., Mark Ruffalo, Chris Hemsworth, Tom Hiddleston, Clark Gregg and Cobie Smulders honor everyday heroes from New Yorkâs finest, first responsders from the NYPD and NYFD and Americaâs best, service men and women from the army, navy, air force, marines and coast guard. -
Sentimental Sunday: Back And Forth
It happens all the time. We break up, then we make up. Weâre not surprised that Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony at the Hamptons just weeks after declaring divorce only weeks ago. For ages, we’ve been on this on again, off again rollercoaster that we can’t get off of, unless you’re not afraid to jump. Are we forever connected to our exes? Here are some reasons as to why we canât help running back.
1. You’re comfortable with what you already know. Apparently, we donât like to stray too far from home, literally. Dr. Karyl McBride, author of Will I Ever Be Good Enough: Healing The Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers, believes that people choose certain love partners to try to master trauma from childhood. She argues that we “tend to choose people who are similar to our parents because we’re attracted to the familiar.” Itâs really difficult to start fresh and re-establish everything you worked so hard to develop. Would you throw it all away that easily? Dr. Sherrie Bourg Carter, author of High Octane Women, runs with this idea saying, “We all are very much creatures of habit and we get accustomed to our routines, what we feel comfortable with, kind of like an old pair of shoes.” It may not be perfect, but if the shoe fits…
2. You’re lonely. Okay, dating is scary and unbearably awkward. Sometimes itâs easier to just run back to safety. Author of Hot Monogamy and The Truth About Love, Pat Love, Ed.D, says, “When we’re unhappy with your life, there’s a natural tendency to go back to square one and remember the last time you were happy in your life.” This comes back to the idea of wanting to be with something youâre used to. On top of that, itâs so much easier to get what you want with someone who knows what you want in the long run. You can have your fun while dating with the enticing phone calls, spicy sex life and lavish dinners, but youâre going home alone. What would you rather have?
3. Youâve changed. Maybe it was the right person, just the wrong time. Could it still work, later down the road? Dr. Carter argues, “A couple may have a very strong chance of making it if the reasons they split up were situational.” This is suggesting it was a break-up due to things out of your control. Just donât expect any huge changes on a personâs character. But just like we canât change someoneâs personality, we might not be able to change the way we feel about someone. Recently, Rihanna‘s reportedly hooking up with first boyfriend from 2006, Negus Sealy. Could we be forever attached to that âfirst love?â Beverly Hills sports psychology counselor, Carla Lundblade says, “It has to do with the fact that they were together when they were younger during times that they were beginning to decide what work for them in relationships.” If youâre ready to try it again, youâll have a better chance with someone youâve already connected with in the past. Itâs not necessarily a step backwards if youâre on a different mind-set.
4. You realize what you missed. This is my favorite. The grass isnât greener on the other side, after all! Apparently, Scarlett Johansson has been trying to get back with her ex, Ryan Reynolds. âScarlett had been asking Ryan to meet since the first week of June,â says the insider in Star Magazine. With the recent disaster with Sean Penn, she wants to go back home (and we canât blame her for wanting more of that sexy monster). But it looks like thereâs a deeper foundation behind the âdonât know what youâve got until itâs goneâ situation. Dr. Paul Zak, neuroscientist and professor at Claremont Graduate University in Southern California, says, “There is literally a craving chemical in the brain, like an addiction to be with someone.” On another note, maybe itâs completely out of your control. Likewise, Carla Lundblade recalls an idea called ‘frustration attachment’ — the notion that love stimulates the dopamine neuron, so when someone is trying to break up with someone, the desire for that dopamine and neurons to be stimulated actually increases. Now thatâs something new! Thereâs actually a physical pull bringing you back and here you are making a fool of yourself over and over again. Youâve officially been warned.
5. You really want it to work out. Maybe there are social and cultural issues surrounding your relationship to the fact that itâd actually be better off if you two stuck it out. Dr. McBride suggests, âWe kind of live in a narcissistic culture where it’s all about how it looks like, rather than who you really are.â She describes this superficial aspect of relationships as the ‘legacy of distorted love,’ based on either what I can do for you or what you can do for me. We all set our own standards for our relationships, and certain issues are out of our own hands. But we can control the level of our commitment and determination for a relationship to function, especially if it’s worked out at some time in the past. More often than not, couples that come back together, stay together. Dr. Carter says, “If people want to do something badly enough, and they want to make something work badly enough, they will make it work.”
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D&G Does Cosmetics
Itâs no surprise that iconic fashion designers Dolce & Gabbana joined their competitors in the beauty bazaar; like Chanel, YSL and many more they have recognized that their skill in fashion can be used to design a line of fantastic cosmetics.
The line is inspired by the âDolce & Gabbana womanâ; glamorous and sensual while always confident, with a provocative edge and who better to be the face of the Marilyn Monroe-inspired ad campaign but the gorgeous and sultry… Scarlett Johansson.
The line offers items for face, eyes, lips and nails and range in price from $20 (for nail lacquer) to $59 (for pressed powder foundation). D&G Cosmetics was launched in the UK in February and is said to be found in North America this summer… soooo excited… ladies get ready!!!