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The ‘M’ Word

Mindfulness has recently been creeping, front-line-and-centre, onto mainstream magazine, newspaper and blog headlines, and is being featured as the panacea for everything from losing weight, parenting more effectively, having more positive and productive social as well as work-related interactions, eating less, managing anger and getting more restful sleep.
However Mindfulness isn’t a ‘trick’ or a gimmick or even anything new, nor is it something mystical, exclusive to those who are spiritually-inclined. Mindfulness is a process that any human can undertake and one which requires no physical resources.
But that does NOT mean that Mindfulness is easy, especially if you have never undertaken such a mental and emotional journey before. In fact, the contrary is true! Nonetheless, the strategies required to cultivate Mindfulness are accessible to most of us and, when we stick with it and practise regularly (like with all things), Mindfulness actually becomes easier.
So, what is Mindfulness? In short, it is the ability to be fully present in the moment without wishing or trying to make it different. We often find ourselves functioning on “autopilot mode,” floating from one activity to another without even thinking about what we are doing, predisposed by and preoccupied with the past which is over and/or a future that has not been guaranteed to us. It is no wonder at all that we often find ourselves feeling stressed, overwhelmed, anxious, depressed and simply exhausted!
Mindfulness practices can help to restore and strengthen the connection between our minds and our bodies, which can further contribute to improved health, functioning and well-being, despite and in spite of everything else that is bound to happen all around us.
Try one of these simple Mindfulness exercises today to get you going 🙂
Mindful Breathing
You can perform this exercise while standing up or sitting down. The goal is to be still and focus on your breath for one minute. Start by breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth (Inhale to a count of 3 and exhale to a count of 3).
Let go of all your thoughts as you do this, including that never-ending list of to-dos. Just let yourself be still for one minute and focus on your breath. When thoughts come up (which they will), acknowledge them and then let them pass, do not dwell on them – this is the key.
Watch your breath renew you with life, as it enters your body and fills your lungs and chest, and then watch this same exuberant energy leave your body and release into the world as your breath releases through your mouth.
Mindful Observation
You can also perform this exercise while standing up or sitting down. The goal of this exercise is to help you connect with your environment, something that we easily miss while rushing around in “auto-pilot mode”.
Choose an object (preferably an organic and natural object from your environment, such as a plant, a tree, an insect, a body of water, you get the point!) and focus on watching it for a minute or two. Try not to focus on anything except noticing this object and being aware of what you are looking at for as long as you can manage to. Allow yourself to be consumed by this object, try to connect with its energy and its role and purpose in your world. Look at it as if you are seeing it for the first time and explore every aspect of its presence.
Food for Thought…
Cultivating Mindfulness can help us to cope better with the thoughts and feelings that cause us distress in our everyday lives. By regularly practising Mindfulness, rather than functioning on “auto-pilot mode” (this state, by the way, is influenced by negative past experiences as well as fears/worries of future possibilities), we can teach our mind to be present in the moment. This not only allows us to appreciate our lives a lot more more than we usually tend to, but it also allows us to deal with life’s challenges in a more calm, clear-minded, patient and assertive way. Before you know it, being present in the moment will become as much of a habit as being distracted used to be and even better yet, you can develop a consciousness that frees you from unhelpful, distorted, self-limiting thought patterns and instead enables you to focus on your positive emotions that increase compassion in ourselves and others.
I’m going to start a new tab for Mindfulness posts on this Blog and will strive to post articles on various themes. If you have any suggestions or questions please feel free to comment below or email me your suggestions 🙂
Originally featured on: https://empirikalsolutionz.wordpress.com/2016/09/07/the-m-word-mindfulness/ -
But I Love Me More…
It should feel like this

A man wants you, nothing can keep him away. stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. slower is better. never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. if a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”. a friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend. don’t settle.if you feel like he’s stringing you along, then he probably is. don’t stay because you think “it will get better”. you’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. the only person you can control in a relationship is you. avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. he didn’t marry then when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? always have your own set of friends separate from his. maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you, if something bothers you, speak up. never let a man know everything, he will use it against you later. you cannot change a man’s behavior. change comes within. don’t ever make him feel he is more important than you are.. even if he has more education or a better job. do not make him into a qusai-god. he is a man, nothing more nothing less. never let a man define who you are. never borrow someone else’s man. if he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. a man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you. all men are not dogs. you should not be the one doing all the bending-compromising is a two way street. you need time to heal between relationships. there is nothing cute about baggage. deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. you should never look for someone to complete you. a relationship consists of two whole individuals.look for someone complimentary, not supplementary. dating is fun. even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right. make him miss you sometimes.. when a man always knows where you are, and you’re always readily available to him – he takes it for granted. never move into his mother’s house. never co-sign for a man. don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. keep him in your radar but get to know others. share this with other women.. you’ll make someone smile, another rethink her choices and another woman prepare. they say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.”
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The No Excuses Guide to Success
Back to school in just a few days and before you get inundated with coursework and required reading, enjoy the practice advice from Mr Energy (Jim Smith Jr) in the No Excuses Guide to Success.

This book has gives you valuable lessons no matter what life throws at you! One of the most important take away from this guide is to live with urgency and purpose.
Find out more and win a copy of this book by sharing what that means to you in the comment box below.
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You are extremely friendly and down to earth even with all your success. How do you do it?thank you for saying that. I have been very fortunate and blessed with all opportunities and advantages that have come my way. I am also a go-getting and a go-giver at the same time. I believe that success comes to those who are the most prepared for it. I always want to help others realize their passion, dreams and calling. if i can instrumental in your success, i feel successful also. - Uncategorized
Michael Levine
Since coming to LA, I have had a lot of time to find out what’s really good here. Some of the greatest resources have been Craigslist, LAist and Yelp.com. I found out about this seminar and hopped on the 720 Wilshire and got there in less than 30 mins.I went to check out the screening of “Sympathy for the Devil” – a documentary of Michael Levine talks at the California State Prison (population 2.1 million) and join them for the Q&A afterwards. The Levine Communcations Office is one of America’s most prominent PR firms. Celeb client lists and always in the company of the ‘best of’s. You can also sign up for his insider e-zine that is designed to influence influencers here. Michael’s story is interesting – he has no formal education, an alcoholic mother and a self taught success story.
Michael Levine during Q&A
What do you all successful people have in common? Michael Levine talks about the 3 magic O’s1. OBSESSION: Positive addiction to your goals, act if your life depends on it (it does!)Decide -> What do you want the most and what are you willing to give up to get it?2. OPTIMISM: Perpetual optimism is a force multiplierThis is true – 4 motivated workers is more efficient than 20 unmotived ones3. OBLIGATION: A sense of responsibility, accountability and non-flakeyness to oneselfWhether you believe you can or cannot, you are both right.success
This game is not fair, this game is not easy but this game is winnable.
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